Always - it is your choice.
Staying in the "what is" helped with the cancer coaster ride my partner and I went through. Started when our youngest daughter was 3 months old...
He managed to get off, with checks still to this day... his antics only slightly adjusted -empathy but not always sufficient sympathy - threads of connection to our mateship.
No matter what happens - mates alive or otherwise... no physical rings, but there is a bound that feels like it will never break.
Thank you for sharing with such honesty. It helped me reflect.
Thank you for being you.