Yes you’re right. They should be mine. It should be always self love first, right?
That stage is always eventually acquired when you realize that it’s a necessity. But then it shouldn’t have gone to that stage at all, when he or the love of one’s life is supposed to be her guiding light/north star.
This is based on my friend and her guy; and the tricky situation that she is in.
An expectation that is not right nor wrong. Just is.
My expectations that my partner would always be by my side is one I know I still hold too tight.
There are things out of our control. My expectation can be taken away in a split second. Changing my world. If I am too attached to this expectation of how things “should” be, my world will crumble.
So I try my best to focus on what is, and not what if. Ensure my guiding light is within and not an external. Which does not mean to say I don’t cherish each moment with my loves either.
mmmm hope that makes sense? It is challenging to explain the unexplainable.
I hope your friend’s tricky situation unfolds the clarity for her soon.
Thanks again and always for being you.