I couldn't agree more. The choice is for each of us to own.
Becoming a parent was never on the top of my to-do list.. it wasn't planned out and in fact we had just decided, it wasn't for us when I learned we were expecting. The universe had other ideas for Boj and I.
When Billie was born, I went through waves of emotions and a lot of grief for an identity that I could no longer be...
I would gladly do it all over again, my girls always loved, but yeah - I'm certain on some level, my shit projected on to Billie and had a hand in her allergies...
No perfect way to "life" .... we each make our choices and ride the waves of consequences.
Powerful piece of writing... as always.
Thanks for being you xx