I love your empowering voice.


It is weird. I grew up with my mother in my ear telling me to be independent. Never rely on a man.

I worked my way through university with something to prove. My career much the same.

I loved being the breadwinner of my partnership.

I felt free. Knowing I was able to support myself.

Until I didn’t. Until that feeling made me feel like I was suffocating.

Becoming a mother tore apart my “identity”. I was confused. I wasn’t built for staying at home I thought. It went against being a true feminist I was telling myself on some level.

Well… no… it was just that I had changed. I was forced to realise that something new had come into my life. The choice to stay home became obvious. First trying to handle both career and motherhood. To now fully embracing motherhood as best I can.

Career can wait. It will still be there if I choose to go back to it.

Happily playing again and discovering who I am now and who I want to become… with the added bonus of watching my kids grow.

A choice… as you say. One I feel I now fully own.

I smile happily when I see fathers making the same choice I have. Staying home with the kids while their partners head to work.

Some split between the roles…it all can work. All a choice.

I smiled reading your words.

For some reason Cleopatra came to mind. Random, but was compelled to mention it.

Thanks Michele for being you. Your shining presence is a beautiful light and smile on my path.

Energy Seeker | Life Learner | Parent in Training | amymarley.com

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