Me too!
I think that trying to find a rule to apply is maybe what the issue is… we are all unique and trying to find a pattern/rule that apply to the majority of cases will fail in some cases. Well that is my thought I woke up to this morning about it.
And this one… My expectations in the past have clouded some of my awareness in how I hear the words too – hindsight offers a new perspective.
I look forward to reading your further findings – us humans can be wonderfully complex.