You definitely have offered an interesting perspective.
I am glad to read that you are unraveling your understanding of your parents relationship and what it means to you now.
You are not your father or your mother.
Your mind and feelings moving forward all within your control.
Forgiveness is challenging. I was recently told all of it ends up being self forgiveness. The energy released from not holding on to past mistakes, in your case mistakes that were not even your own, is truly freeing.
I hope that makes some sense for you.
It definitely helped me with letting go of some past experiences.
Thanks for writing.
Thanks for being you.